Vibrators are not addictive, but they can limit women’s pleasure – 7/30/2023 – Equilibrium

Many women’s sex lives changed when they discovered an almost perfect partner. He easily finds the clitoris, moves at different speeds and never loses consistency. Without having to say a word, he can go slower, faster, deeper or shallower. Make circular or zig zag movements. It just doesn’t have a body, since it’s a vibrating toy, and needs to be used sparingly.

Experts point out that the constant use of vibrators, without varying stimuli in the body, can limit sexual satisfaction — the opposite effect to what is desired by those who seek it.

“The person gets used to this type of stimulus and any other that is not of the same order ends up not being interesting”, says Carmita Abdo, psychiatrist and coordinator of ProSex (Program of Studies in Sexuality), at USP (University of São Paulo). .

Lawyer Lorena (fictitious name upon request), 35, started using the device five years ago to activate her libido, which worked. Over time, however, she became dependent on the toy to reach orgasm.

“You push the area so hard, with great power, that you get used to very strong stimulation,” she says.

Now, he says that his pleasure is “mechanized”, concentrated in the genital organ and without so much intensity in other parts of the body.

Lorena has five vibrators in different formats, which she doesn’t intend to give up. “I want to acquire more, but improve my relationship with the use”, she says. “I’ve been maturing the idea of ​​looking for sexual therapies”.

So far, there is no research that indicates any type of addiction to the vibrator can impair the sensitivity of the clitoral region.

According to Michelle Sampaio, a specialist in human sexuality from the Faculty of Medicine of USP (University of São Paulo), patients report difficulty in having an orgasm without the help of a sex toy. The answer, then, would be to vary the stimulus.

Fingers, oral practice, penetration by others, and body contact are indicated. In addition, vibrators can be used at different heartbeats, intensities and body locations.

“Every woman should use a vibrator, we just need to be careful with the excess”, says Sampaio.

According to couples therapist and sexologist Marcela Benati, vibrators have more benefits than harm.

“In the office, we use the vibrator to treat almost all types of sexual dysfunctions in women. It is a massager and, massaging the genital muscles, it increases irrigation, so it increases pleasure, lubrication and improves vaginal atrophy”, affirms

A study carried out in the United States, published last year in the scientific journal The Journal of Urology, concluded that the regular use of vibrators by women provides benefits beyond sexual pleasure. Researchers at Cedar-Sinai Medical Center stated that the device encourages pelvic floor health and strength, reduces vulvar pain, and is beneficial in the treatment of urinary incontinence.

Cultural producer Tatyanna Hayne, 39, an ambassador for the organization Livres de Harassment, has three sex toys that keep her company wherever she goes. They received the affectionate nicknames of Vivi (a vibrator), Susu (a sucker) and Tião (who vibrates and sucks).

“My relationship with masturbation started very young, not with a vibrator, but with other objects. My mother always talked to me and said that it was important to have my pleasure”, he says.

She claims that use has not interfered with her relationships with men. “Honestly, I think this has nothing to do with constancy, it can even improve the relationship”, she says, mentioning that she varies the ways of using the devices.

This does not mean, however, ease in orgasm with flesh and blood partners. “You have to be very comfortable. I don’t go for sex as often anymore and it’s not a problem for me anymore”.

Carmita Abdo says that expecting the same intensity of vibrator stimulation in two (or more) sexual intercourse can be frustrating. Even if achievable, it requires conversation. In sex, according to her, the woman needs to communicate what she likes the most, without feeling ashamed or afraid of offending the other person. For this, training is needed.

Ideally, women should maximize their possibilities for sexual satisfaction, she says. “Nobody needs to demonize the vibrator or masturbation, the problem is dosing. If you exclude everything and deposit it on the vibrator, you limit yourself – and the idea is to expand”.